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Five Top Tips for a Non Commercial Valentine’s Day

By Bay Whitaker

As Valentine’s Day approaches, we see a proliferation of cards, teddies, heart-shaped boxes and red roses in the shops.   While there is nothing wrong...

Rebuilding Trust....After the Affair

By Gill Wier

When one partner has been deeply hurt by the other’s actions - through an affair or some other kind of betrayal - it can be hard to see how trust can...

Let's Talk about Sex

By Bay Whitaker

Research shows that couples who rate themselves as having a good sex life also tend to talk about sex.   But for many of us conversations about sex wi...

Drifted Apart? Four aspects of closeness in couple relationships

By Gill Wier

Couples who come for counselling often say they have lost a previous sense of closeness and have “drifted apart”.  At different stages of life each pa...

Introducing…Relationship Foundations

By Gill Wier

Are you preparing for marriage, planning to move in with your partner or about to start a family together? Our new Relationship Foundations course sup...

Just Ask: A 6-Step Method from Anger to Change

By Bay Whitaker

When in conflict with my loved ones, the things that often rile me the most are the behaviours that happen over and over again.  And like so many peop...

How to make couples counselling work for you

By Gill Wier

It takes courage to come and talk to a counsellor about problems in your relationship.  Most couples come for counselling because their relationship i...

Turning Conflict into Communication

By Sarah Saatzer

There are many things we are not taught at school or by our parents or the people around us. The trouble is that this can give us an unconscious or co...

Are you speaking your partner’s Love Language?

By Gill Wier

Have you ever had the experience of doing something really special for your partner then being disappointed that their reaction was not as positive an...

Supporting couples as we emerge from the height of the COVID-19 pandemic

By Gill Wier

Have you noticed a change in your relationship since the start of the pandemic? With long periods of time spent within each other’s company alone, wor...

Finding safety again in relationships

By Laurence Keith

Some people get mixed up between threat and soothing in relationships and are then unable to access the calm, safe spaces they need to heal. How can w...

To The Rescue

By Bay Whitaker

Are you someone who finds it difficult to see a colleague struggle with a task?  Do you often find yourself with a list of little extra jobs you’ve un...

Watching Couples Therapy

By Bay Whitaker

Watching “Couples Therapy” My family have recently been glued to a show on BBC i-player called “Couples Therapy”.  It’s a fly on the wall documenta...

Three Tips to help break your social media addiction

By Bay Whitaker

It was announced this month that the Royal College of Psychiatrists is calling for research into the effects of social media on mental health of young...

Why Don't You - Yes But

By Bay Whitaker

One of my favourite books is called “Games People Play” by Eric Berne.  Published in the mid-60s it was a pop psychology best seller, looking at diffe...

Being myself, being in relationship - Self Differentiation

By Gill Wier

Two important but opposing human drives are the need to have autonomy (to make our own decisions) and the need to be in relationship (to form close at...